How does it feel when somebody tells you that they will help you with a project, then doesn’t ever show up to work on it? How does it feel when somebody tells you that they care about you, then ignores you for the next few weeks? How does it feel when somebody tells you that they will be there for you, then finds every excuse not to have to listen to your drama?
I have experienced a few of the scenarios above and I can tell you that they make you feel horrible. When people say one thing and do another, relationships can fall apart. Not only does this hypocrisy cause great confusion but also a great amount of pain. I recently met a person who caused me to reflect a lot on this topic. Soon after meeting this person, I became very close to them, as they said that they had similar interests, morals, and values as me. However, their actions demonstrated morals and values opposite of mine. This realization caused me to remember the following quote…
I have since decided that I will judge people based on what they do rather than what they say. People’s words can lie, but their actions can’t. I have also decided that I will be an honest person in both my words and actions.
The common cliche “practice what you preach” is something that I try to live by. I don’t ever want to be accused of being a hypocrite and therefore, if I say I will do something, I do it. If I teach something, I make sure that my actions show that I truly believe it. I challenge all who read this to try to accomplish the same. Ask yourself each day, “Do my words match up to the things I do?” If they do, keep it up. If not, work to make sure that they do line up. It doesn’t matter whether you are the nicest person or the biggest jerk on the planet. Whatever you are, own it in word and in action. Not only will this change eliminate much drama from your life, it will allow you to be more confident in yourself as you know who you are and what you represent.